Tantrum is hard to get rid of once the feelings explode, but there is always a reason behind the child’s tantrum. You can also control tantrum by giving consideration to your child in your daily life. In this article, we will introduce the causes of tantrum, its relationship with developmental disorders, countermeasures and remedies.
- What is a child’s tantrum?
Tantrum is a condition in which the voice is screaming and crying or making a violent strange voice. Having emotions such as anger and anxiety is a natural phenomenon that happens to everyone, but tantrums occur when feelings are not well controlled. Children who have a tantrum often have the following conditions:
- Turnover on the floor and cry.
- Throw or hit something.
- Hit or kick people around.
A child who has been calm without any problems may suddenly develop a tantrum. Also, in excessive cases, when you are in tantrum, you may hurt yourself as an impulsive act that you cannot control (self-harm behavior), destroy things, or hurt others (other harm). There is.
Tantrum has the function of removing some inconvenience for children. For example, consider the situation of a child who has been picked up by a toy and is having a tantrum. It is inconvenient for children who have picked up toys that “the toys are no longer in their possession.” In order to eliminate the situation where the toy was taken, it becomes a flow of action to cause tantrum as a means.
Another important point is that children who have tantrums themselves may be in trouble because they cannot control the outburst of anger. When you see a crying child, you may be frustrated asking, “Why don’t you stop crying so quickly?”
- Why do children get tantrums?
There are various causes of tantrum depending on the situation and the temperament of the child. We will consider what kind of background the child who has tantrum has and what purpose the tantrum plays in achieving it.
- Tantrum as a physiological reaction:
For some time after the child is born, he sleeps and drinks breasts under the care of his parents. At that time, physiological discomfort such as and “I’m diaper or wet” is expressed by crying.
When a baby cries, parents take care of relieving physiological discomfort, such as cradling and feeding milk. Through this involvement, the baby learns to communicate.
Therefore, it is necessary for the baby to move up and cry during this time. It is important for parents not to ignore it and to meet this physiological demand.
- Tantrum for communication
By the age of one, you will begin to vaguely realize that what your parents want to do may differ from what you want to do. From around this time, they began to react negatively to the actions of their parents. Tantrums occur when there is something inconvenient and you want to avoid.
These reactions are a sign of growth as the child gradually becomes aware that he or she is a person with a different intention than the guardian. It is said that this starts around the age of one, and when he is two or three years old, he adds words and asserts his opinion while saying “I’m sorry!”.
However, for infants who do not yet remember the language, the only way to express their feelings is through actions such as crying and rampaging. There are three cases of tantrum: attention, request, and denial.
- My child has a tantrum! How to cool down?
The timing of tantrums is not always predictable. Knowing in advance what to do when your child has a tantrum makes it easier to deal with it without rushing.
- Ensuring the safety of children:
When a tantrum occurs, first ensure that your child is safe from injury. In case of tantrum, such as hitting your head against the floor or wall, put a cushion or pillow between your child and the object to prevent injury.
- Be sure to praise your calmness:
Make sure to praise your child for his calm when the tantrum stops and the child is completely calm. By complimenting them, such as “I went to another room and calmed down” and “I was so happy to endure it,” the child felt reassured, and it became easier to feel that “sometimes it is better to stop tantrum.” It also leads to prevention.
After a while, you will forget the sequence of tantrums and calm down, so be sure to praise them on the spot when you calm down.
- Improper handling will escalate the tantrum
Protect yourself from being dragged by your child’s tantrum
The most important thing to avoid is that the adults around you are dragged by the child’s anger. A child’s energy during a tantrum is enormous, and even if he is not attacked, just being next to the child can be frustrating and upset.
If your child’s personal safety cannot be ensured if you are not nearby, try to prevent yourself from being dragged by your child’s tantrum, such as by putting earplugs so that loud voices do not reach your ears.
- Emotional rebuke is counterproductive
- It is NG to scold emotionally. If you scold or violence without thinking, your child will be confused and escalate the tantrum. It can easily lead to problems such as feelings of instability and restraining yourself only in front of emotional people.
- It will be easier to repeat if you put things in place. If you give a toy or sweets, your child’s tantrum may stop, so it seems to be an effective way to deal with tantrum, but if you give your child “tantrum” It is a factor that makes you think that there is something good. Also, if you first tell your child that you will not pass the request, it is important to stick to that attitude and treat it consistently.
- However, crying and crying in infancy will be an important means of communication for building an attachment relationship between the child and the guardian, and will be the basis for the subsequent development of the child’s feelings, so we will respond to the needs of the child.
Children are also in trouble when they encounter problems that they do not know how to deal with.
There is some background hidden in the tantrum, such as the frustration of not being able to express one’s feelings because words are hard to come out, or the fact that only one’s thoughts precede because it is difficult to see the feelings of the other person. I will. It is important for understanding tantrum to have a perspective on what the child who has tantrum is having trouble with.
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